In Between...

There's gonna be some shortage of illustrations in this few blogs....Its gonna be what the folks wanted to read....But this is my version. CF's version may vary too.

So in the 4 months....What did I gather about CF?

1. Strong willed

Her opinion is her opinion. You must be some straight 25A student with CGPA 10 to change her opinion. She will work things out logically and come to her logical conclusion but never thinking that even though her conclusion is logical, people's hearts sometimes make them make the illogical decision. Eventually, understanding is difficult. Seek to understand than to be understood. But she only wants to be understood.

2. Food

Of all the times I have taken her out to eat, we ended up in a kopitiam only once. And the koay teow thng there was considered unhealthy. She'd prefer the Amoy Road koay teow thng. Fish balls there are more healthy. Ok.....

Most of the time we go out for dinner.....I can name most of the places: Bella Italia, Yataimura, Aji Noren, Cuisine Bou, Food Loft, Sushi King, Manhattan Fish Market (unacceptably oily), 600cc, Ingolfe's.....Noticed there are no kopitiam, western food, bah kut teh, chu char....

It's all expensive. I tried asking Bah Kut Teh, Western Food, but we never did end up there. I would not survive the expenses.

The fun of eating is not just going to all these places, its going to all the places we had not gone.

3. My mom....

I love my mom very much. I respect her. I am also truthful to her. I strife and want to be a dutiful and filial son.

As part of a conversation that happens after I come home from dinner my mom, out of her concern, will ask, "So, where did you go to eat?"

I will dutifully reply. Of course if its an expensive place she would not mind. But if the list is like in #2, she will question the sanity of doing it.

CF did not like this line of questioning.

Q: "Why must your mom always ask you where did you go to eat?"
A: "Well, its part of the conversation we have when I get home after a date."

Q: "What is her business to know where you went to eat? What you eat and where you eat is not her concern mah."
A: "Oh well, she just wanted to make conversation, make sure I had a good time."

"I don't know. I think it will be difficult for me to get along with your mom. I hope in the future if you are my boyfriend or husband this will not happen."

4. Baptism

Q: "Are you baptise yet?"
A: "Errr...not yet. Is that a concern?"

Q: "Why are you not baptise yet? What is holding you back?"
A: "Oh well, just after CNY I had a conversation with my parents about baptism and they weren't too happy with it. So I let it lie quiet first."

"How come everything you do need to ask from parents? Want to eat somewhere also need to tell your mom? You don't have a mind of your own to make your own decisions one?"

"Well, its not like I must get baptise then can only serve God. In my heart I know I am Christian, I can also serve."

"If it was me, I will go ahead to get baptise. I just tell them. Whether they like it or not, it is my decision, my life. "

"Well, I need to respect my parents too."

"Who are you getting baptize for? God, right? Then why do you need your parents' permission?"

Errr.....Well, I did not know the answer, but I thought that one should live a life of respect for his or her parents to show them that being Christian does not take them away from their family. I mean, if i went ahead to get baptised, what kind of testimony would that give to my parents?

Eventually, these were some of the stuff that sort of got on to me. We never resolved it and I guess that's where my mistake lies. I don't think it would have been resolved easily. No matter how much I tried to talk to her about it, she would "test" me.

#1. Do you listen?
#2. Not willing to spend money for healthy food.
#3. Mom's a problem later on. You sure you can be independent?
#4. Can you make your own decisions one ah?

*sigh*.......

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